Having more than two or three children isn't really the norm these days. When my husband and I met we said we were going to have two children. However, after we had our second child we didn't feel done. So, we decided to have another one, and then another one. Once we had four children we thought we were done, but I didn't feel done. We had one more bundle of joy, so that makes four girls and one boy. My mother is a registered nurse and she's always warning me not to have anymore children because of my age. Apparently, she knew a woman who was forty-two (I'm not forty-two) and died during childbirth. My close friends were shocked to find out I was pregnant again, but the ones who really care about me were supportive. It's really funny to see the reactions I get from people when I'm out with my children. I usually get people coming up to me saying "boy, you have your hands full!" I just smile and say "Yes I do!" Grocery shopping with all of them is challenging, but there's so many benefits to having a big family. My oldest girls are a little more independent, so they help out a lot with their younger siblings. If I have my hands full with the baby, I know I can depend on my older children to help with grabbing something for me or helping their little sister or brother with their coat. If the baby is fussy they're more than happy to sit with her and play with her to try and make her happy. They also entertain each other so they're not bored. I love having a big family because I think about the future and all the grandchildren we have to look forward to. When my husband and I are old and grey we'll have a lot of family surrounding us. I love our big family. I'm a stay-at-home mother, a real estate sales representative (not active at the moment) and a children’s/young adult writer, and even though I get a little overwhelmed sometimes, I wouldn't change it for the world.
Wednesday, January 27, 2016
How many parents out there have children that constantly fight with each other? Well, we have five children (four girls and one boy) and our three oldest girls fight over everything. Our eight year old loves to play with her six year old sister more than her three year old sister because they have more in common. They're closer in age and they like the same things. They like to play with their dolls in the room they share. They pretend the dolls are their children as they dress them up and put them to sleep. Our eight year old hates in when her three year old sister is in her room because she doesn't understand how to play like them. We always encourage her to let her three year old sister play in her room so she doesn't feel left out. If they lock her out of their room, she sits outside the door crying and then my husband and I feel bad for her because she's lonely. Then when we let her play in their room there's a lot of yelling and crying. It got worse when they received the Barbie Dreamhouse for Christmas. We decided to put it in our eight year old's room, but we told her that it was for everybody to play with. So of course our three year old wanted to be in their bedroom because she wanted to play with it too. My husband and I couldn't take the constant bickering anymore, so we moved the Barbie Dreamhouse to the basement. The fighting over playing in the bedroom continued, so we put the Barbie Dreamhouse in our three year old's room, but that didn't matter because the issue isn't the Barbie Dreamhouse. The issue is she just wants to play with her two older sisters, so the fighting continues. Oh, the joys of parenting :-)
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 10:21 AM
Thursday, January 1, 2015
Monday, February 10, 2014
When children lose their baby teeth they start to feel like a big kid. Our six year old daughter always gets excited when one of her teeth is loose. She constantly plays with it and wiggles it until it falls out. When she lost her third tooth she came into our room in the middle of the night to tell us. She wasn't in any pain and there's already a permanent tooth growing in its place. Last night she lost the fourth tooth. She was playing with her little sister and bit down on something and it fell out. She's looking forward to a visit from the tooth fairy.
Children normally start losing their baby teeth around age four. When this happens it's important to reinforce good dental hygiene. Make sure your child brushes his/her teeth twice a day and flosses at night before they go to bed. Limit the amount of sugary treats they have and schedule regular dental visits. You can also talk to your dentist about sealants to help prevent cavities. Our six year old daughter went to the dentist and got a sealant a couple of weeks ago.
Taking good care of your child's permanent teeth will help them last a long time.
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 12:14 PM
Monday, February 3, 2014
A lot of children have a bad habit of picking their nose. Even though it's a common behaviour for children it's probably one of the most annoying behaviours to parents. Our four year old picks her nose sometimes and when my husband and I see her do it we tell her to stop. We always tell her to wash her hands immediately after and use a tissue if necessary. Recently our 20 month old started copying that behaviour and now picks her nose too.
Children usually pick their nose because they have mucus stuck in there from an infection or they're just bored. Mucus contains a lot of germs and picking their nose can cause nosebleeds. My husband and I are trying to nip it in the bud. The most we can do is encourage our children to use a tissue and wait to see when they grow out of this bad habit.
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 11:22 AM
Monday, January 27, 2014
Children usually bite other children when they're unable to communicate their feelings. Some children bite due to behavioural issues.
Our four year old is in junior kindergarten and there's a girl in her class that apparently bites other children often because she has behavioural issues. Our daughter likes to play with this little girl and has been bitten by her more than once. The teacher can't keep them apart, but she does keep an eye on the little girl and takes appropriate action. One day her teacher approached me and advised that our daughter bit a child. I was shocked because she never does that. She was obviously copying the little girls' behaviour. I talked to her teacher and she said when the other little girl bites she gets sent to the office and she thinks our daughter did it to get the same kind of attention. My husband and I talked to our daughter and told her that biting is not nice and she should always use her words. We explained to her that when the other little girl goes to the office it's because she's in trouble and biting is not acceptable. I'm happy to say that she hasn't bitten anybody ever since.
If your child is biting other children talk to him/her to find out what is causing their frustration. It's important to understand the reason behind the biting so it can be stopped. If your child is being bitten by another child, make sure they get medical attention to check the severity of the bite. Talk to the teacher to find out why the child might be biting and find out what precautions they are taking to prevent it from happening again.
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 10:37 AM
Monday, January 20, 2014
As a parent, you feel helpless when your child is sick with a fever. A fever is the body's way of fighting off whatever is attacking the body. When your child has a fever there are five things you could do to keep it under control:
1. Take your child's temperature regularly and keep track of any changes. I prefer to use an ear thermometer because it's gives a much faster reading.
2. Give your child the recommended dosage of acetaminophen or ibuprofen to help reduce the fever.
3. Give your child plenty of fluids to keep them hydrated. Beverages with electrolytes are best.
4. Try not to put too much clothes on them, especially when they're sleeping. It's better to keep them cool and comfortable.
5. Pay attention to the way your child behaves. Sometimes even when they have a fever they still have an interest in playing and they might eat a little. When they start eating and sleeping like normal it probably means they're feeling better.
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 12:56 PM
Monday, January 13, 2014
My husband and I have three children and I notice our second and third child is developing a lot faster than our first. I remember potty training our first daughter was a nightmare. Our second daughter potty trained a lot faster.
Our six year old is in grade one and she was having problems with her reading. She started doing Kumon and her reading has improved a lot. Our four year old daughter likes to do Kumon with her older sister, so my husband photocopies them for her and she does them too. Her reading and writing is beyond a junior kindergarten level. Our third daughter is 20 months old and she tries to keep up with her older sisters. She likes to write and colour and she has excellent pincer grasp. She climbs the stairs and says a lot of words earlier than her sisters did.
I think children with older siblings develop faster because they watch what they do and listen to what they say and want to be like them. The younger children love and respect their older siblings and want to play with them so they try to keep up.
I hope our third daughter potty trains easily :-)
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 11:45 AM
Monday, January 6, 2014
Well, Christmas has come and gone for another year. You spend so much time getting ready for it and then just like that, it's over. During the Christmas break we visited family and did fun things with our children. It was nice having quality time with my family, but it's time to get back to reality. My husband goes back to work, our girls go back to school and I go back to doing all the things I have to do.
If you have children that are going back to school after the Christmas break you want to make sure that you're prepared. Maybe a few days before try getting your children back in their normal routine to get them ready for back to school. The day before they start school, try to get all the laundry done and put away so they have clean clothes ready. The night before they start school, make their lunches so you don't have to do it in the morning when you're in a rush. Check your children's backpacks for any unfinished homework and put them to bed early so they don't have trouble getting up in the morning.
Happy New Year!
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 5:00 AM
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
When you go out with young children you have to make sure you have everything you need for them, such as the diaper bag with extra clothes and snacks. My husband and I have three young children with one on the way. When we go visit my parents and my in-laws it's great because they have gates, toys for the children to play with and a high chair for when it's time to eat. Visiting friends with young children is great too. Not only can the children play with each other, you don't have to worry about anything because they already have everything you need and it gives you a chance to interact with other adults.
It can be challenging when you have small children and visit people who do not have small children. Not only do you have to pack almost your entire house with you, but you have to constantly run after them because of the lack of baby proofing, especially if they have a lot of stairs. Obviously, it's understandable why people without small children don't want to baby proof their house because they don't need to. It doesn't mean you're not going to visit them anymore, it just means you have to make sure you're prepared. We went to a family dinner a couple of days ago and we had to leave early and miss dinner because we forgot to bring a portable high chair for our 18 month old. When it was time to eat she wouldn't sit still and was constantly running around. They have a big house with a lot of stairs so we had to block her from the stairs and we were afraid she would break something. Let's just say it was a nightmare. We decided we're going to leave a portable high chair in the minivan at all times so we're always prepared.
Posted by Wendy Hinbest at 9:25 AM